What is a biblical marriage?
- Marriage was God’s idea for the human race.
- It was God who said, “It is not good for man to be alone” (Genesis 2:18).
- Jesus agreed with this definition in Matthew 19:4-6 when He said, “Haven’t you read”, He replied, “that at the beginning the Creator made them male and female”, and said, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh? So, they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate.” Jesus had the chance to include same sex or polygamous marriages here, but He didn’t.
- Eve was created to fulfill and complete Adam. She was to be his companion (Genesis 2:18-22). This companionship is exclusive. It involves leaving the parental bond and cleaving to a spousal bond, which is now the primary bond (Genesis 2:24).
- A marriage bond is the most intimate bond. The man and woman become one flesh (Genesis 2:24). No other people are tolerated in this bond, except one man, one woman and Jesus (Ecclesiastes 4:12).
- It is prescribed by God as heterosexual (Genesis 2:18-24).
- It is a romantic relationship. Read the Song of Songs in the Old Testament.
- It is an exclusive sexual relationship (Proverbs 5:15-19). God created married sex for our enjoyment, so enjoy it with your wife (Ephesians 5:15-19). God disallows any other type of relationship, including adultery, pre-marital sex, incest, beastiality, homosexuality, polygamy, concubinage, etc.
- It is for a lifetime (Song of Songs 8:6-7 & Matthew 19:4-6)
- It is meant to be a stable, affirming environment for raising a family in (Proverbs 6:20).
- The husband is the ultimate authority in this household, but he should serve his wife (Ephesians 5:21-23).
- We should only marry another Christian (2nd Corinthians 6:14-7:1)
- Both the man and his wife are equal before God (Galatians 3:28)
- The reason is because we should do everything we can do to point them to Jesus (Ephesians 5:21-33).
- It is a symbol of our relationship to God (Malachi 2:14, Jeremiah 2:1, 1st Corinthians 11:1-3 ans 2nd Corinthians 11:2)
- Finally, in eternity future, we will be married to Christ (Revelation 19:6-8).
- Are there biblical reasons for divorce? Yes, there are. Read https://bsssb-llc.com/divorce/
God gave us two commands:
1…be fruitful and multiply
2…subdue and rule over the Earth.
Biblical love thinks of the other person first. Love cares for truth and delights in the best for the other person (read 1st Corinthians 13)
Biblical love protects, cares for, loves, trusts and perseveres.
But humans have ‘fallen’ (Genesis 3). We are sinners. We don’t always put our spouse first or take their feelings into account. Fortunately, God is always forgiving. Hopefully, our spouses will be also (Matthew 6:14-15). With God’s help, we can become a more mature, godly person and spouse. But transformation takes time (James 1:2-4).
Working together with Jesus, your marriage can become much more enjoyable and mature in the Lord. I thank God that He gave us spouses to enjoy and go thru life together with.